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My question is my ex-husbands girlfriend treats my son badly when he visits his dad. His dad works nights and is hardly there when our son visits him, which is not very often. His dad doesn't call much or come and see him very much. So when he does visit our son wants to spend time with just his dad and not the girlfriend and new baby they have all the time. Well the girlfriend has started posting lies and hateful comments about my son on her myspace page which is uncalled for he is 11. My question is how can I not make my son go to his dad's if he does not want to go legally? I don't think it is in the best interest for my son to be in that enviroment emotionally. Can anyone help?

Your son doesn't get to decide, and you don't get to decide, who is present during Dad's visitation time with his son; that's up to Dad and Dad alone. The sooner and more emphatically you communicate that simple message to your son, the sooner he will fashion his own coping skills to deal with it. Having you intervene and try to change Dad's visitation will in all likelihood only make it worse.