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Do Not Involve Your Children in Your Divorce

Friday, August 21, 2009 by Philip S. Burnham

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There are as many reasons for divorce as there are divorces, ranging from finances to adultery, and none of them is the business of your child. Yet many children can repeat everything of who did what to whom. How did they get this information? Eavesdropping is a possibility, but in my experience, they were told the information by one or both of their parents.

If your children do ask questions, be honest without giving out all the details. It is perfectly all right to say that you and your spouse don't agree on much anymore and neither of you wants the arguing. Remind them that parents can divorce each other without divorcing the children.

As much as possible, a child needs two parents. While you might not be a big fan of your spouse, your children are or should be, and you need to make sure it stays that way. If your goal is to protect your children because you believe your spouse to be an irresponsible person, let them show their true colors. You are probably correct, and if so, you can deal with the situation after the fact. Remember, just because your spouse never kept his promises to you doesn't mean he/she won't keep them to thier children.

The best rule of thumb is to keep the children out of the divorce.
 
Posted at 13:55 PM
Topic: Family Law
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